The boy who cried wolf

'Wolf! Wolf! Wolf!'................. remember the story? (click the words above for full story)

Two days ago, it was April fool (1st of April). A local representative was called out in the middle of the night, half asleep, to receive a fund for Japan.....Yes, he was fooled.

Three days ago, a couple was cheated more than 200k of their life saving because they mistrusted someone over deals involving copper and related metals.

Four days ago, someone disappointing a good friend by saying no plan for her birthday but threw a surprise party at Med Club for her.

Five days ago in a cartoon, a husband was suspecting the wife was cheated on him. She told the husband she was going out with Sally the day before. But, who knows, the husband was with Sally that night.

Six days ago, one student told the teacher he didn't do the homework because the dog bit his pencil. Subsequently, he was found to have forgotten to bring his exercise book.
The teacher asked:' Where is your brain?'
And the kid said:' I forgot to bring.................."

So many types of lies, some are harmless, some cause embarrassment, some are devastating.

The next question is: WHAT to trust? or WHO to trust?

Simple minded people always get hurt or the maximum surprise because they believe easily. Common sense is sometimes not common at all. What do you think? What are the things that people do or say that will make you feel suspicious? Look forward to hear your opinions and experience here.

The Goose with the Golden egg

 (Click the words above to read the story)

 Lately, there have been a lot of fraudulent cases where

people's lifetime savings were cheated.............................

Imagine you are one of the victims, how would you feel?

How would you react? 

Is it only because of greed that we fail?

Voodoo involved? Mistrust somebody?

 It is probably alright to say that

gambling is a way of life for most of us

(except the top 1% who are controlling the results). 

We buy lottery, shares, properties etc.......

From small gamble to large.

Hoping for a win or wins that can change life.  

 We make decisions now and then and each decision
 making process could be a gamble to some.

Greed is good, someone said.

It makes us want more, demand more; it makes us jump higher. 

But becareful where you are heading...........

Get rich fast skims have been popular in the market.

It's easy, fast and lucrative. 

A lot of people are attracted. 

However, the results would normally be

only the top few is making profit; 

95% of the rest don't make much or lose money. 

Unless you are super rich and you don't mind losing money,

you can take risks to bet anything with any amount desired.

For most of us, a more sustainable win would probably 

takes some times to build.

I am not an expert in making money.

Yes, I am poor myself. 

But i believe, if we are lucky enough to have 

the right methods and assisted by the right people,

our effort and risk would be reduced by

more than half.

Any time could be a good time with

the right methods and people. 

Good luck in your life ventures.

May someone help you when you are in need;

May someone zap you back to reality in appropriate time;

May someone watch over and protect you

all the time........ 

The Farmer and The Sons

Father and son's relationship is not that easy sometimes. Boys' things. 

Too harsh, the kid rebels; too soft, the kid might not be well prepared

for the real society. Worry for the kid but uses harsh words: 

want to say 'I'm sorry' but say 'serve you right' instead.

Wish him do well in life, try to help without being repelled?........................ 

Here's a smart way: 

  A FATHER, being on the point of death, wished to be sure that his
sons would give the same attention to his farm as he himself had
given it.  He called them to his bedside and said, "My sons,
there is a great treasure hid in one of my vineyards."  The sons,
after his death, took their spades and mattocks and carefully dug
over every portion of their land.  They found no treasure, but
the vines repaid their labor by an extraordinary and
superabundant crop. 

Just a little guidance, the farm was taken care of and the son's future

was secured. 

The guys might not like to be told what to do but to be lured by curiosity

to do what is told............. 

Human relationship is never one formula for all, perhaps. 

May you discover your 'secret weapon' to deal with the youngsters.

From another perspective, a shift of focus, from hard labor work

in the farm to the excitement of discovering the treasure, 

enable the sons to shift their attitude from unwilling to volunteering; 

complaining to obeying; disappointing to receive abundantly.

There might be moments in life, when we are going through 

brain drain, energy drain, spiritual drain etc etc....................

Road has been tough. If we can shift focus from the 

exhausting processes to something less stressful like 

doing nothing, watching movies, rest properly and then 

recharge our mind with positive inputs or 

change our angle of looking at things,

we might gain treasure that never thought possible before. 

Miracle happens when you believe...................

Beauty and Wisdom

Long ago, a tiger was very proud if his black and yellow stripes. But he had only a few friends to talk and have fun with. Unlike the wolf, who had many friends even though his color was dull and grey. the tiger wasn't happy. A deer saw him and asked:" Are you alright, my friend?"

So, the tiger told the deer what was bothering him. The wolf overheard tiger's problem. He went to the tiger and said:" You see, all the animals are friendly with me because I am clever and know how to make them laugh. They do not like you because you are too proud of your beauty."

Moral: beauty alone would not bring happiness.



Image is everything. Looking good is important in the society. People do judge from the cover. Does this mean the professional looking will generally be a loner because they look high up, closed up, bashed up? Does this mean the dull looking will gain popularity easily as they are more casual, easier going, friendlier? Looking around me, i guess, generally yes. So  the professionals are the unhappy lots?? Beautiful people are not happy lots?? If so, shall we dress down and be not so beautiful to be happier?

I guess it depends on occasion. Dress appropriately as a gesture of respect or out of politeness. And, pliz... pliz.... do not dress too shabby, not tidy, not clean or in short, too badly. If not, you might get bashed up and don't know why; would face unnecessary obstacles or difficulties in getting help.

Behind every stern face, there is a need to befriended. Behind every happy face, there is a secrete sadness that they want to leave behind.

Apart from the dress and the need, may be their character counts too. We don't like tiger-like personality: strict, straight, bold, aggressive, quiet,  boring, loner. We prefer wolf-like personality: care free, humorous, chatty, interesting, sociable even though sometimes cunning?........ hmmm................ animals characteristics in human nature.............

To be happy might not mean we need to accommodate others and pretend who we are not. To be happy might means to find the group that we are comfortable to be ourselves  in. Generally:

1. Simplify your mind. Don't think too much, don't be too sensitive or critical or choosy, don't think too far.

2. Open  your heart but close the ears. Be receptive to new things but filter your info. You might be vulnerable to be treated as gullible but you will always give others a non judgmental status especially over gossips.

3. Live for the moment. Everything you do at the moment, do it for the best as you only live this moment once. Boring? Do something useful. Tired? Rest properly and find some relaxing activities. Frustrated? Smash the issue into pieces, solve if you can solve and let go......

4. Do not expect to be liked by everyone. People are different. Reserve the basic human rights for yourself and for others to live equally well even though someone might have a kind of  'asking to be beaten up look or dress'......

Be happy, regardless if you are tiger, wolf or other animals; beautiful, handsome or sorry looking.

The Camel and Jupiter

Celine Dion has a song 'If Wall Could Talk'.............. What would a camel wish for if it can talk?


The Camel and Jupiter


Long long time ago, a camel saw a bull adorned with horns, he envied him and wished that he himself could obtain the same honor. He went to Jupiter, and besought him to give him horns. Jupiter, vexed at his request because he was not satisfied with his size and strength of body, and desired yet more, not only refused to give him horns, but even deprived him of a portion of his ears.



Were the camels living in million years ago having two large ears like the elephants? They asked for horns and be given tasks, so, they became another type of animal named elephant?


Is there anything wrong trying to look more beautiful or manly?

Imagine if the camel's wish was granted, he had horns. What would he do with the horns? What kind of animal was so tall that the camel could poke on it for fun? What kind of position would the camel need to be in order to use the horns?  Will the horns be an asset or a burden later?


I believe the camel did and does appreciate who it is and counting its blessings. Other wise, camel could have been long extincted - committed suicide (??). The camel was actually asking for more blessings (the camel thought the horns were a blessing) or things. Is there anything wrong to ask for more things in life?


Nothing wrong to ask more. So, Jupiter was too strict, too quick to get angry and to quick to punish?

Will we be punished if we ask for more? What define 'more'? How much is 'more'?

My friend once suggested that in order to justify our need, we can always ask: what will i do with that? If we can satisfy with the reasons, probably no harm getting. The worse of the outcome is probably giving it away if it is an excessive waste or facing bankrupt if it is a depreciating asset or liability.

I want to have more in life without being punished or becoming something else. Wondering which God should i ask.............hmmmm.....

The Proud Peacock

There was a little bit of discussion about Valentine's day, if it is lawful to celebrate by some tribes in South East Asia. Not sure if  this would help but let's discuss:

Long long time ago, a beautiful Peacock lived in a forest. All the animals admired his beauty. This made the Peacock very proud. One day, the Peacock met with an ostrich. The Ostrich was searching for food on the ground. The Peacock was trying to impress the Ostrich. He spread his feather again and again to attract Ostrich's attention. He even made noise. Alas, the Ostrich ignored him. Finally, the Ostrich broke the silent and said:' Hey! You may have beautiful feather, but what good are they if they can't help you fly like other birds?'

Moral: Do not be proud of useless things.

 

I'm not sure if this is right: the Peacock may be didn't intend to show off his beauty to the Ostrich. The Peacock may be mis regconised the  Ostrich as a 'malformed Peacock'- look similar to a peacock except no beautiful tail, no hair on the head, always shy in the sand/ ground and slightly taller....(?????). In order to show himself as not being judgmental, he display his feather, as a sign of courtship or friendship. And, he got a cold shoulder......... :(



In the  modern society, we have all kinds of attractions, distractions or whatever you want to call them. It is a normal process for human to grow from seeking love from adults as a baby or kids; seeking love from friends as a teenager; and eventually our partner.

There are many differences between the East and the West. Due of globalization, everything, including culture and values, is mutual influencing, the goods and also the bads. How do we differentiate what are the good trends that we should model from and what are the not so encouraging trends that we should be cautious of?

We are bound by culture, a set of behaviors practiced by the majority of the people around us. It may be alright to say that culture might evolve with time, place and people. So, the question is: what is the most important value that we should hold on to? Do we want to be a globalized man or kampung mari? Can we be in between, being exposed and be acceptance to the rest of the world while preserving our old modest, sincere, friendly and down to earth values?

No human are the same. What are we modeling after? Who do we follow?

A lot of people having the basic moral and behavioral guides from pass down knowledge, religious teachings, personal development books etc.......... But why do we follow that when friends around us not?

It is sometimes about self education on the cause and effect principle may be. It might be not easy to judge right from wrong at times due to certain situation that someone is in. But how far are we willing to bear the consequences following our action would be the key to guide us through our moral struggle. Pros and cons analysis? Cost and benefit analysis? You name it. Troublesome but may be worthwhile to reduce the possible regrets in life.

We do not want to compromise ourselves that we get hurt all the time. We do not want to be too strict in what we believe in until we think that everyone else who believe slightly different from us are inferior, pervert, wrong or whatsoever............ Not easy to be a human right? So, how do we be in between where our right is protected while others are not hurt?

A questions for us to ponder today. Looking forward to hear your  thoughts soon.....

The Lion and The Mouse and the modern society

Just came back from a long break. No internet, no radio, no paper, no book, minimal TV. :)

This week....

A LION was sounded asleep. A Mouse tripped over the Lion

while playing hide and seek with his friends. 

The Lion was awakened. He caught the Mouse

and was about to kill him. 

The Mouse was terrified. He begged: 

"If you spare my life today, 

I would surely repay your kindness one day." 

The Lion laughed and let him go. 

Not long after this, the Lion was caught in a net,

a trap set by human. He roared out loud in desperation. 

The Mouse, recognizing his roar, came and bit the rope

with his teeth and set him free.

Moral: An act of kindness, no matter how small, 

       will never be wasted 

The Lion and The Mouse

There is a quote related to this:

Do not commit an bad act no matter how small;

Do not neglect a kind deed because it is small. 

Nowadays, with the improvement of living standard, 

education level, modernization of the society, 

we are evolving to adapt to the changes that are happening

around us. Some for the better; some for worse.

In the olden days, most of the ancient teachings are 

passed down knowledge from mother or father to sons or daughters.

In the modern society, most of the parents are working

(some exceptions in the villages). They have no time to guide

the children. So, the adults are expecting the teachers

in the schools will teach the kids basic manners. 

There is a phrase used in this part of the world

to indicate those who are very bad in manner:

" He/She never study in school".

If the kids never like the schools, they might learn from

friends or the medias like internet and TV.

Looking into our current society, some might want to ask:

What is important to us?

What are we doing and what is amiss?

Why are the social problems ever increasing?

What has happened to our education systems, family structure and society?

 What do you need as a teenager? What do you expect as an adult? 

How far would you act as a teacher? 

What is the best way to decide a best solution for the country? 

Look forward to hear your views here.